Imagine this: you’re at the end of an amazing date with an equally-amazing person. You spent the whole night talking, laughing, and getting to know each other. You really like this person, and you want to go in for a sexy kiss. It’ll be your first kiss together, and you want it to go perfectly.
If you’ve ever been in that situation, you know that there’s a lot of pressure to get that first kiss right. A good French kiss can be a magical start to a relationship. And a bad kiss might not spell doom for you, but it definitely doesn’t help your case.
Don’t let a bad kiss get in the way. This guide will teach you how to get a girl to kiss you, how to be a good kisser, and some tricks for a better pash.
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What Is A French Kiss
First things first, we need to clear up exactly what a French kiss is. A French kiss (also called a tongue kiss) is a deep kind of kiss that involves both your lips and your tongue. French kisses are often slow, hot, passionate, and incredibly intimate. You don’t French just anyone – this is usually reserved for romantic and/or sexual partners.
French kissing is also known as pashing, making out, necking, snogging, tongue wrestling, sucking face, and first base.
Why Are French Kisses Popular
Scientists agree that there is an evolutionary reason that humans love to French kiss. When we look for a mate, we’re looking for someone who is most compatible with us – not just emotionally or physically, but also biologically. French kissing allows us to explore and “test” out our partner’s microbiota (a.k.a. body pathogens and bacteria) to see if they’re compatible with ours.
But of course, we don’t only French kiss for biological reasons. We love to French kiss because it’s an intimate expression of desire. Done right, a good open mouth kiss can elicit many different feelings: arousal, passion, and love.
Famous French Kisses In Movies
Kisses in real life rarely look like kisses in movies. But there is one thing that Hollywood gets right: the magic of the moment. Here are some of the best kisses that ever graced the silver screen.
Casablanca
The Notebook
Spider-Man
How To French Kiss: Your Step By Step Guide On How To Make Out
We know that your first time will be nerve-wracking, but you can calm your nerves a little by knowing all the techniques beforehand. Read on to learn how to kiss with tongue – the right way.
1. Prep Yourself
A good first kiss experience starts way before you even lock lips. Always keep lip balm and mints in your pocket in case of kissing emergencies. This will ensure that your lips are soft and moisturised and that your breath is all good to go. Because who wants to kiss someone with chapped lips and bad breath?
2. Find The Moment
The real secret to an amazing kiss? The perfect moment. The best time for a kiss is when both of you are in a romantic mood. Maybe you just had a delicious dinner date. Maybe things just feel right as you’re cuddling on the couch. Whatever the moment is, make sure you have your privacy – making out in a room full of strangers is just awkward.
3. Initiate The Kiss
If you don’t know how to get a guy to kiss you, that’s okay. You can (and should) make the first move! Lean in slowly and build up tension. Make flirtatious eye contact, look down at their lips, and smile. Move your head and body towards them and go for the kiss!
PRO-TIP: Even if you’re kissing your girlfriend or your boyfriend, you should always get consent from your kissing partner. This could be in the form of non-verbal body language or an explicit and enthusiastic “yes!”
4. Explore!
Instead of being caught up in the technicalities of how to kiss a guy or girl, the most important thing is that you relax, have fun, and do what feels right in the moment. Do you want to nibble on their lower lip? Go for it! Do you want to slowly massage their tongue with yours? Sounds great! Do you want to pull them in and touch their body with your hands? Do it.
The trick is to not overdo any one single thing. The occasional tongue is fun and sexy, but too much and you’ll just slobber all over them. Being handsy is also generally fine, but there is such a thing as going too far – especially if you reach for more sensitive parts without getting consent first.
PRO-TIP: For a visual guide on how to kiss a girl or guy, check out handy video tutorials!
BONUS: Get Ready For More?
French kissing is an enjoyable activity on its own, but sometimes it does lead to something more. If you’re into it, you can definitely take it further. Remember: just because you or your partners consent to French kissing, it doesn’t mean you/they can expect sex too!
To signal that you want to take it to the next level, you can do so physically (like removing their clothes or leaving kisses on their neck) or verbally (by asking if they want to).
Conclusion
Straight, gay, lesbian, or bi – it doesn’t matter who you are or who you love, first kisses terrify us all equally! But with this guide, some practice, and a lot of communication with your partner, you’ll be a lean, mean kissing machine.
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